You love each other. But lately, it feels harder to find each other.
Maybe you keep having different versions of the same argument. One of you reaches for connection while the other pulls away. Small disagreements become bigger than either of you intended, or you have stopped talking about the hard things altogether.
You likely still care deeply about each other and just wonder how you became so disconnected.
Couples therapy can help you slow down the patterns happening between you, understand what is underneath them, and begin finding your way back to each other.
Schedule a free 15-minute consultation now to get started!
When the problem starts to feel bigger than either of you
You might be coming to couples therapy because:
Communication keeps breaking down
The same arguments happen over and over
You feel more like roommates than partners
One of or both of you feels unseen, unheard, or misunderstood
Trust has been damaged
Sex or physical intimacy has changed
Stress, work, illness, or family responsibilities are affecting your relationship
You are navigating different identities, beliefs, or values
You love each other but are not sure how to move forward
You do not need to wait until your relationship is falling apart to ask for help. Get started on couples therapy today and start addressing these issues together as a team!
The goal isn’t to figure out who is right.
Couples therapy gives us space to understand what happens between you.
Instead of getting caught in who started the argument or who needs to change, we can slow things down and look at the patterns underneath the conflict, while working to cultivate genuine curiosity and meaningful connection in the relationship.
What are each of you trying to communicate? What happens when you feel hurt, rejected, criticized, overwhelmed, or afraid of losing connection? What experiences are each of you bringing into the relationship?
As those patterns become clearer, you can begin responding to each other differently. And when the patterns are already clear, we can start with learning new tools to come to the relationship differently, fostering exciting new ways and spaces to be yourselves and connect authentically without losing yourselves to old patterns.
Therapy can help you communicate more honestly, repair after conflict, rebuild trust, deepen emotional and physical intimacy, and feel more like partners again.
Couples/relationship therapy that makes room.
My approach is relational, trauma-informed, LGBTQIA+ affirming, and grounded in curiosity rather than blame.
I welcome couples (or polyamorous relationships) across genders, sexual orientations, relationship structures, and backgrounds. I also understand that relationships do not exist in a vacuum. Trauma, chronic illness, religious experiences, identity, family, culture, work, and stress can all shape how we connect with the people we love.
You do not need to arrive knowing exactly what is wrong or how to fix it. Of, if you do arrive knowing exactly what is wrong and how to fix it, therapy creates a space to get curious, to re-examine what you already know, to develop new tools, and honor your true self and the one(s) you are in relationship with without abandoning yourself.
That is something we can begin figuring out together.
Schedule a free 15-minute consultation now to get started!
If your relationship is characterized by physical abuse, sexual abuse, or sexual addiction, please seek specialized care from a therapist who works specifically with couples whose relationships have abusive patterns or sexual addiction. If you are being abused or experiencing domestic violence from your partner(s), please call the national domestic violence hotline now to receive immediate help: 800-799-7233
I do not offer crisis services or emergency mental health services. If you are experiencing a mental health emergency, please call or text 988 now to access immediate help.